So, you’ve decided to try being submissive during phone sex, but you’re not quite sure where to start. That’s okay! This guide is designed for people who are new to being submissive during phone sex and want to learn the basics. When it comes to being a Submissive during phone sex, it involves handing over control to your partner during a phone sex session. It’s a kinky, thrilling experience that can be incredibly arousing for both people involved when you let go of that control and the other person gets to take over for a while.
Understanding the Submissive Mindset
Being submissive is all about relinquishing control and letting your partner take the reigns over the situation. It’s a headspace that can be incredibly freeing and exciting to not just you but your partner too. When you submit, you’re trusting your partner to guide you, tell you what to do, and make decisions for you, even if that’s a mommy or caregiver having to have some of that control just to take care of you, when you act really little, or helping you clean up when you can’t do it yourself even over the phone while telling you that they might have left something for you to clean up with before they left. There’s a vulnerability and surrender to it that can be deeply arousing for both people involved.
Many submissives describe the feeling as a delicious loss of control, a sense of being taken care of and led by a dominant partner who knows what they want and need even if that’s over a phone call. Letting go like that can be scary at first, but also incredibly liberating for some people who just want to feel like someone can take care of them and not have to worry. You get to relax and enjoy the journey, knowing your partner is in charge and it can feel incredibly sexy when you know how taken care of and confident they can be.
It takes trust, communication, and a willingness to follow instructions that they give you. But if you’re open to it, the submissive mindset can open up a whole new world of erotic possibility in your life and in bed.
How to Act and Talk During Submissive Phone Sex
So how do you actually embody that submissive attitude during a phone sex session? Here are some tips:
- Use “yes Ma’am” or “Yes mommy” when responding to your partner’s instructions or questions. It shows deference and acceptance of their authority, even with a caregivers authority if that’s how you want things to go, because our caregivers love taking care of you.
- Don’t initiate the dirty talk or give orders. Let whoever is taking charge lead the conversation and make the first moves.
- Being vocal as a submissive is key. Make all the delicious sounds you can feel want to come out, Moan, groan, even be loud if you want to just make sound
- If your partner tells you to do something, like touch yourself in a certain way, do it without hesitation. Follow their lead.
For example, you might say things like: “Yes Ma’am, I’ll do as you say…” “Mmm your instructions are driving me wild…I feel so good” “I’m your good little sub slut, ready for that pegging…”
The idea is to sound obedient, aroused, and ready to play the part and act submissive. Your partner will guide you into the scene from the start, you just respond back.
The Importance of Aftercare
Aftercare is a crucial part of any submissive phone sex experience. It’s the TLC and emotional support given after the scene to make sure both people are okay and thoroughly enjoy themselves, this could even be after an intense session of your partner teasing and humiliating you about how small your itty bitty cock is, or making you go outside in public without wearing any underwear and then telling them about it over speaker phone
After submitting, you might feel vulnerable, overwhelmed, or even a bit depleted by everything that had just happened. This is where the aftercare comes in, Aftercare is about checking in, talking about it, and sometimes comforting each other, and ensuring a positive end to the experience. It could involve, sweet words of affirmation, or just chatting until everyone is grounded again, sometimes it could just be the end of a call.
A little aftercare goes a long way sometimes. It helps you both feel safe, cared for, and connected after an intense submissive experience.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I don’t have a safe word?
Always agree on a safe word before you start. If you don’t have one, say ‘red’ to stop everything immediately. It’s the most common safe word and your partner will understand it. sometimes the other person will ask you if you want to stop without the prompting of a safe word, or if you want to change course.
Can I be submissive without any pain or humiliation?
Yes, you can. Submission is about handing over control, and not every hand over of that control has to be about being humiliated or being put through pain. You can be submissive in a loving, gentle, way that feels good to you and it’s about your preferences of who you want to take that control too.
Embrace Your Submissive Side
Being submissive in phone sex is an erotic adventure waiting for you to dive into. Start by exploring the submissive mindset, embodying that attitude in your words and actions, and taking care of yourself and your partner after the experience.
As you begin your journey into learning how to be more submissive during phone sex, know that you’re not alone. There are plenty of others learning and exploring their submissive sides too.
So take a deep breath, let go of control, and embrace the thrill of submission. The pleasure is waiting for you on the other end of the line.
